Proverbs 10:10 (MSG) An evasive eye is a sign of trouble ahead,
but an open, face-to-face meeting results in peace.
The Message version of this nugget of wisdom in Proverbs shows us a
starting point for healing conflict in relationships. When we are hurt by
others - whether they intended it or not - our behavior toward them changes. We
get the evasive eye. We avoid interaction with them. We turn away instead of
embrace. We talk to others about our hurt without confronting the source of
hurt. We operate under the anthem of, “some things are better left unsaid,” to
avoid the tough conversations. We try to sweep emotions under the rug to move
on in peace. The problem with that is that emotions and hurts have a way of
mushrooming under the rug, causing us to trip on our walk. When we fail to work
issues out at the time of conflict, they perpetuate an unending cycle of hurt. The
one who unintentionally caused the hurt becomes hurt in the aftermath. Over
time, a small misunderstanding leads to a broken relationship. At some point,
the divide is so wide it seems impossible to cross. Resolve conflicts quickly,
especially among believers. Instead of saying or writing an apology, live it
face-to-face. People believe actions of love, not words of intention.
Father, Forgive me for my part in rug sweeping. Give me Your wisdom to
stop talking about healing relationships, and move forward to act in the love
of Your Son. I long for Your perfect love. Amen
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